The Three Rules

girls rule

 I love this pic. I wonder if I can swim in that?

Last weekend, I had the honor of speaking with Girls on the GLOW. From their Facebook page:

“Girls on the GLOW is a facet of the Mullica Hill Women’s Triathlon Club. It is a curriculum-based fitness program for girls in grades 1-6. …… G.L.O.W. stands for Grow, Learn, Offer, and Work, which is what the girls are expected to do at each and every practice. The hope is that every girl will discover her inner GLOW that comes from achieving a goal, as an individual and as a team, through effort, determination and cooperation.”

Whoa. That is just awesome.

Coach Dina saw me being silly back in August at the Sunset Kids’ Triathlon, interviewing athletes with my microphone/hairbrush, and somehow thought I would be an appropriate choice for a Saturday morning speaker. Needless to say, I had to step up my game.

The theme of that Saturday’s practice was how to overcome an obstacle or setback, and also how to help another who is struggling. That theme was right up my alley. As a triathlete, I have suffered numerous setbacks, mostly due to injury. This is great! I planned a talk about the pain in my iliotibial band and going to physical therapy and using foam rollers and how my hips aren’t level and cortisone shots. Wow. That sounded so boring that I nearly put myself to sleep. So I listened to the experts. My daughters.

At 12 and 15 years old, my girls haven’t suffered too many life-changing athletic setbacks. Yeah, they’ve been cut from a team or two, but nothing they didn’t see coming. Their grades are fine (perfectly mediocre) and they have no major health issues. The majority of their stress in life comes from their friends, classmates, and peers, and the drama that comes along for the ride. So I thought about the conversations I’ve had with them, and the counsel I’ve given them, and I came up with this:


  1. Girls Rule!
    This one is easy and pretty darn obvious. You don’t say this rule. You stand up, take a deep breath, and SHOUT IT!! No matter what life throws at you, remember that you can handle it, because you’re a girl. And girls rule.
  2. Friends Lift Us Up
    Friends say kind things, not mean things. Friends hold out a hand to help you up. They make you feel good on a bad day, and fabulous on a good day. Friends make mistakes, and we forgive them when they do. But is there someone in your life who doesn’t lift you up? If so, then you can and you should politely say good-bye.
  3. Don’t Lose Your Big Girl Voice
    At some point when you were little, you told your mom or dad, “I can do this by myself.” Whether it was buckling a seat belt or pouring the milk on your cereal, you delivered that message with a clear, confident voice. Don’t lose that voice! If you know the answer in class, say it! If you see someone getting bullied, step in! Keep that big girl voice, or BGV, alive inside. You’ll need it as an adult.


Here we are, lifting each other up. Nobody got dropped, so that was good.

After we talked, the GLOW girls went outside and got moving. They started with a warm-up:


A little stretching


A lot of dancing

Then there was lots of running, some laps around the soccer field and some relay races.


Relay races. Instead of passing a baton, they shared a verbal encouragement.

Everything about this Saturday morning was just perfect. Thank you, Girls on the GLOW for inviting me. It was a thrill, and a pleasure to meet all of you.  I can still see your GLOW from here, all the way on the other side of the river.


Meet the new face of TMT. I swear, she put that sticker on without any encouragement from me.

5 thoughts

  1. How many times do you see young women in class not using their BGV? It always makes me so sad to see it. You know they know the answers but they too often do not want to seem too smart in our classes. What a great message to convey to these girls! You rock!

    And, don’t forget, if we win the football pool and beat the dudes at work, lunch for me, you, and Taffy! Girls Rule!

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  2. First of all, they chose a great person to be their speaker. Your positive outlook on life is just what these girls need to hear. Second, what a fabulous name for a girls’ program! I am all about empowering young women and encouraging them to become anything they want. When I was young and was questioning my ability to do something, my Mom would always say to me “How hard can it be? Men do it all the time.” She would also say to me “You can do anything a man can do except become a father.” Those words of encouragement have served me so well throughout my life, especially when I became a single parent. I raised my kids with that same advice.

    Laura, I love your “Three Rules”, especially the advice to young girls that if their friends are not lifting them up, to politely say “goodbye” to them. That is one of the most important pieces of advice you can give a young girl. As Eleanor Roosevelt was quoted as saying, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

    I am so happy to know there are good programs, such as GLOW, to encourage young girls and help them become all that they can be.

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